Why You Should Let Your Daughter to Organize Her Own Wedding?

Is your girl a grown-up adult and will she be getting married in the near future? Should you let your daughter have the reins of her own wedding? There are many reasons why you should let your daughter handle the responsibilities of her big day right from creating a wedding plan to executing it. Simply put,

Remember the bad ol' days

Parenting is hard, you can never do it right 100% of the time. You have had to make tough decisions; you have had to drag your child, kicking and screaming, through bitter things for their own good, juggled 33 things at once, have gone without sleep. And that's excluding all the poo and puke duties you held your breath through. This time and here on, you don't have to. Hand them the reins of their life. They can do it, and perhaps make you proud too. You assisted your child till the time he/she became independent. You let eat her own food, clean her own poop, put on her own clothes. In fact, you always wanted her to be independent. Now she has her career, a job. she makes important decisions of her life. So, why hesitate when we are talking about their wedding.

Adults make their own decisions

If they are asking for the freedom to make their own choices, don't debate it. Some concern is understandable. They probably haven't made many great choices in their life- failed classes, blundered, squandered away money (not too late to show them this), broken trust, and given you all kinds of grief, knowingly or otherwise. Even so, they are grownups who, no matter how much you disagree with them, should have complete autonomy over their life decisions.

The one time you can intervene

If, however, your kid is happy to let you run the game, it might not be the worst thing to make them do it themselves; they are getting married, it is time they indulge in some adulting. Why do you ask? It is time! says Rafiki. Kick your big baby out of the nest.

Spouses matter

We are not talking about your kid alone here. Since it's a wedding, then by definition, there must be a partner, a soon to be spouse. Their opinions matter (yes, more than yours). They are about to start a new family; it should be on their own terms. Let's be real, marriages are almost never perfect and there will be enough faults in your overlarge bundle of joy to give their spouses multiple occasions to jump ship (and vice versa). Allow them the opportunity to make the kind of memories that they can cherish.

Science weighs in

Let's talk science. A study showed that as children grow up, tensions arise with their parents, often leading to estrangement, especially in middle-aged, ahem, children. It was seen to affect mothers more as they were observed to expect closeness more. If that indeed is to happen, perhaps imposing your will on your kids is not the most helpful thing. It will only cause your kids to push you away. So sit back and cherish these moments. They will only be doing this once (probably). They will also learn how to be financially independent, and know how to manage their money properly, taking that particular burden off of your head. So let them learn and grow in life!

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