Best TED Talks On Love and Relationships

Relationships are troubling people these days a lot more than it has ever in history. The Love Aaj Kal is quite complicated. Love, lust, infatuation have all been mingled under one roof of being together. The sole aim of connection is fulfillment, which is dwindling in individuals today. Very few couples are sure of what bond and level of trust they share. Often couples are found facing a dilemma.

Here are some TED talks that will give you some wonderful insights into what is love, how to love and the secret of a happy and long-lasting association of love.

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood

Understanding is the first step to improving, says Katie, CEO of One Love Foundation whose mission is to end relationship abuse by educating young people about healthy and unhealthy relationship behaviours. She emphasizes upon the importance of being in a healthy relationship and how it affects all the aspects of one's life. She describes briefly 5 points which are Intensity, Isolation, Extreme jealousy, Belittling and Volatility and how to foresee these signs and work upon it to avoid a toxic and abusive relationship. She mentions, every relationship starts with excitement and thrill but what matters the most is how a relationship evolves. To know in detail about these 5 aspects watch the full video.

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The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts | Maya Diamond

The stats say that every 13 seconds a couple breaks up in the US. Maya in her talk mentions that one common string in all the long-lasting relationships is Emotional Responsiveness, which might sound quite easy and obvious but is definitely not.

There are 3 major elements of emotional responsiveness which are:

Accessibility: Whether you are available for your partner when he/she needs your presence or support.

Responsiveness: Are you engaged in celebrating your mate's good times and are you there to console and extend support in harsh times.

Engagement: How much do you value your partner and whether they are on your priority list or not. The level of Emotional Responsiveness can truly make or break your relationship, says Maya.

She adds on saying that our culture has taught us to consider our needs and emotions to be less important. She makes it clear that we need each other to thrive and attachment and support of our partners is a fundamental need for humans. She later explains the various blocks like, believing our partners to be adults, being overwhelmed by work/stress, disconnection from needs, etc. that restrict many of us from being responsive partners.

Link to video : Youtube 

In this session, the speaker tries to figure out the reasons as to why one falls in love. Is it a magical or a biological process? Does it only involve the heart or is it a result of biochemical processes happening in the brain and the body? She then continues with very conflicting definitions of love she learnt from her granny and a cousin, who was a scholar in biochemistry. It is known that a man and a woman fall in love very differently. She highlights that there is a scarcity of research regarding the subject because of lack of volunteers and other reasons and so animal studies have been observed to find a conclusion. She then mentions the different hormones and chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, vasopressin, etc. that are responsive and fluctuate while one is in love or attracted to someone. This video will widen your view about love between humans and various minute details incorporated.

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What you don't know about marriage | Jenna McCarthy

This is quite a funny and easy-breezy talk on some surprising research on how happy marriages work and last long. The speaker makes sure that you crack in laughter every once in a while. She starts by quoting the multiple preparations that couples do for the bid day(marriage), with heights of optimism and with a sarcastic tone mentions the countless divorces that happen.She then Moves ahead with many findings which were about happy and successful marriages.

Some of them being:

• If the wife is comparatively good looking, there are fewer chances of divorce or cheating.

• People who focus on positives stay together for long.

• If a husband is involved in the household chores, the wife is more attracted towards him.

• People who have a smiling photograph of their childhood are less likely to get divorced.

• "The Oscar Curse", it has been observed that celebrities who win an Oscar, get separated soon.

• Divorce is contagious.

With all these hilarious findings, Jenna comes to an end by encouraging people to get married as married people are healthier, wealthier and happier than singles. "Marriage is an institution worth pursuing and protecting." she says.

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What can be better than Valentine's day itself to get to know love even better? Watching these videos might change your perception and beliefs regarding love and relationships. The 30 minutes spent watching these videos will bring about some change in you and that too for the good.