How to handle your teenage crushes?

Is Your Crush on Someone, Crushing You?

Have you been charmed by someone? Do you spend hours thinking about that special guy in your school, college, or neighborhood? Or, imagine yourself with him in a romantic Bollywood or Hollywood scene, just like Kareena Kapoor of 3 Idiots in Zoobee-zoobie-zoobie-zoobie- pa-ram–pa- zoobie-zoobie-pa-ram-pa…?

Oh dear, you have a crush!

Well, if this is the case, you are not the only one. Having crushes is a part of growing up. With our raging hormones, it is very natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. However, things get complicated when this someone special's presence or more often the lack of it starts affecting our day-to-day lives. I mean, you don't feel like doing anything else other than thinking about him. Your studies, BFFs, and even your favorite TV show don't interest you. If this is the case, you need to decide how to handle this crush of yours.

Imagine yourself in three scenarios.

Scenario 1: You want to admire that person from a distance. Though, by doing this, you run the danger of becoming a stalker. This might seem a tempting option to the shy, introverted individual. This will work fine if you can control your feelings and want to focus on more important goals in life. So, as you will shift your focus to these goals and ambitions, this crush will fade out slowly. But, if you are not able to control your feelings, these may work against you. Haven't you seen the films Obsessed (2009) and Rules: Pyar ka Superhit Formula (2003) wherein obsessed protagonists almost border on becoming stalkers?

Scenario 2: Your crush is also your friend and you don't want an awkward situation. So, never let your crush know of your feelings and wait for the perfect time. A lot of successful relationships do bloom out of childhood friendships. However, there is no guarantee that the friendship will continue five or ten years down the line. 13 going on 30 (2004) and Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na (2008) have the themes of best friends falling in love.

Scenario 3: You decide to confess your true feelings to your crush, not fearing the results. Though this requires a lot of guts, it is better than keeping yourself in the dark. Yes, It can be extremely embarrassing if our feelings aren't reciprocated, but, believe me, it would provide closure if the person is not interested. And, what if, he might just be waiting for you to say it first? Times have changed and it's ok for girls to make the first move. In case he reciprocates, it can lead to a new and beautiful experience altogether.

The choice is all yours. Sometimes taking a chance would pay off, but, sometimes, it can lead to humiliation in a larger social sphere with the threat of someone pulling your name in social media. Be discreet and go ahead. Things might not go as planned, but that is when life happens. Figure out what is the best thing that will work for you and if need be, take things in your stride and move on with life.

Photo credit? Crush is attributed to a sneak attack by Amanda Tipton and is licensed under CC By-NC-ND 2.0

Tags: Teenage, Crush, 13 going on 30, Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na, opposite sex, Kareena Kapoor, relationships, handle, Obsessed (2009) and Rules: Pyar ka Superhit Formula (2003)